We all know them. You know the ones – those self-confident individuals who always seem to be in control. They make snap decisions, appear to be more successful than most people, and possess an inner strength that is almost visible.
You admire their ability to take control of a situation. Speak confidently, command a room. You admire their self-assurance and firmness of their opinion.
Characteristics such as these arise from inner beliefs in one’s ability. Maybe you had more self-confidence when you were younger or thinner. Before you stopped working to raise the kids. Perhaps you have more now that you are older and wiser. Maybe you never had much and want to increase it.
Regardless of why you want to gain more confidence and become more self-assured, you can use the following tips to help you formulate a strong, healthy self-image that is full of conviction and self-confidence.
5 Tips to Increase Your Self-Confidence
1 – Understand Your Strengths… and Weaknesses
Self-confident people know what they are good at, and also what they are not very good at. Confidence definitely means feeling good about your ability to do certain things. However, it also means understanding those areas where you need to improve or even outsource to others. A confident person readily accepts they are not the best at everything and looks for ways to improve their strenghts.
2 – Look On the Positive Side
Bad things happen all the time. You need look no further than your daily news broadcast to see that the world has a lot of problems. Self-assured individuals understand this. However, they do not focus on the negative side of life. They can always find the silver lining in every cloud, and a positive spin on a negative event.
3 – Don’t Let Failure Stop You
A failure is an event, it is not what defines you. The most successful, self-assured individuals with true conviction in their beliefs and abilities have failed hundreds and even thousands of times. They are not scared of a failure, and certainly don’t let it keep them from succeeding in the future.
4 – Spend Time with Positive People
Confident people surround themselves with other confident people. These people tend to be positive as opposed to negative in nature. Their self-belief is contagious and makes people want to be around them. Negative people want to bring others down to their level. Positive, self-assured individuals spend time with confident believers in self-convictions that push them to be more of who they are.
5 – Use the Right Body Language
You can “trick” your mind into believing that you are self-confident. This will lead to confident, assured actions and behaviors. Pull your shoulders back. Stand erect. Look people in the eye. Practice good posture. Don’t slouch. Shake hands firmly. Smile more often. Speak slowly and clearly. These are all traits of self-confident people, and simply by adopting these postures and confidence boosting tips, you will begin to feel more self-assured.
Practice every day in the mirror. Put yourself into situations where you can speak in front of others. Study and learn as much as possible on topics of interest. Dress for success and confidence. Stay calm and be confident in your abilities. Be strong and believe in yourself and soon your self-confidence and self-worth will grow.